My husband doesn't want to go to the dentist

So, my husband has really bad plaque/calcium build-up on his bottom teeth. I've been married to him for ten years and only found out about this two years ago. He always smiles with his lips closed and talks a certain way where I can't ever see his bottom teeth. I had no idea he had this issue. I discovered by mistake when I caught a glimpse of something bright yellow on his bottom teeth...thought it was food...and I brought it to his attention. He was embarrassed to show me, but I forced him to. He said when he was younger he never brushed his teeth. So this crap has been in his teeth for decades. It has eaten away at a huge chunk of his gums. I wish I can provide a photo, but I would have to get him drunk in order to do that.

Ever since, I've been begging him to go to the dentist. He refuses. Says they can't help him which is BS. I've even purchased the tools and products to do the cleaning myself...I attempted it but he got frustrated within the first two minutes made me stop.

Quite honestly, it grosses me out. It has affected our sex life. Every time we kiss, it is all I can think about. Every time I want to talk about it, he shuts me down and says "I don't feel like talking about it" or "now is not a good time". Well, apparently it is NEVER a good time.

Today we had a big argument about it. He says he feels like he is living with a roommate instead of a wife. I told him I feel the same but he knows why. And I reminded him again just in case he forgot. We got nowhere. I'm normally a very patient and reasonable person...but today I blew up because I feel like he is accusing me for the lack of sex life. Fuck, I've been suffering too.

I'm frustrated. I want my husband back. I want to feel attracted to him again. I want to be able to kiss him without thinking about the stupid teeth.

I hate that he is not taking care of the problem. It's not for vanity, it is fucking hygiene. Which I care a lot about. And he should too before he loses his teeth to gum disease or worse.

I needed to vent this. I have nobody to talk to about it because I don't want to reveal his secret or embarrass him.

Any advice? Anyone else going through this? How can I convince or reason with him?

And please, no dumbass immature comments about giving him oral sex instead or some crap like that. There is more to sex than "the deed".

Submitted June 03, 2015 at 05:34PM by MyHubbyLurks http://ift.tt/1FUDiOp